The following skills and practices can help you develop a mindset that allows you to continue growing and expanding your skills, knowledge and capacity for a lifetime. As you press forward with increasing your capacity to tolerate stress, move toward those internal and external challenges that need to be addressed or resolved, and developing skills that are not yet mastered you will find yourself growing continually stronger. This allows you to be able to use your full skill-set under challenging situations and to continue acting with care, compassion, skill, and wisdom even when things get tough.
Skill 1 Embracing a Growth Mindset
For additional ideas about this skill please read the article on Growth Mindset
Skill 2: Learning to Like the challenge itself.
In the following video below Dr Huberman explains how telling ourselves, “I like this” when we are doing something difficult is important. Even though it may feel like a lie, it is a lie embedded in a deeper truth which is, I want to learn to like this. This ability to attach reward to the challenging activity itself is what helps us develop intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation.
Skill 3 Moving Towards the Dragons and Giants We Need to Face:
Moving towards what we fear as long as it will actually be helpful and appropriate to deal with can be a key life skill.
One of the lifelong skills that we need for lifelong growth is to continually move toward things that are important for us to face which. This video will probably be most helpful once you are in phase 3. In earlier phases before you have resolved an adequate amount of distressing memory anchored material, it may feel overwhelming. On the other hand, it may at times be motivating to people in Phase 1 or 2. Use it if it’s helpful, if not you can come back to it later.